I have been watching for some time and have posted and talked to a few people. I think that the pixies Famliy can help me.

I have a question for all that have been in a Long Distance Relationship (LDR).
I just got in to a relationship and it is my first LDR. What seemed to have helped with coping with the distance? Any and all answer are welcome.

Thank you

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May you live as long as you want, and want as long as you live!!!!!!!!!!!!

First of all, congratulations on your new relationship.

I'm in a LDR and the single thing that makes it easiest for me is having a goal that I can look forward to. Knowing the date that we'll be getting together next, being able to plan on it, count down to it... makes it so much easier.

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Dear Lord, I pray for wisdom to understand my man, love to forgive him, and patience for his moods. Because Lord, if I pray for strength, I'll beat him to death. AMEN


It's no trick loving somebody at their best. Love is loving them at their worst.
~Tom Stoppard~


It isn't premarital sex if you have no intention of getting married.
~George Burns~


As bad as I am, I'm proud of the fact that I'm worse than I seem.
~A. DiFranco~

As with any relationship, communication is the key. Don't harbor any doubts, keep your mind free of wondering about what might be happening. Ask if something doesn't seem quite right. I managed a couple of LTR's that went well. Good luck and congrats.

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As to marriage or celibacy, let a man take which course he will. He will be sure to repent - Socrates

Love is not looking in each other's eyes, but looking together in the same direction - Antoine De Saint-Exupery

Communication is the big thing. Make sure you can get in touch with them when you need to. Trust is the next big thing. If you don't think you can trust them so far away, you probably shouldn't be with them!
Just be sure that you know where you both stand at all times.

It's always harder to have a relationship that's long distance because it takes away the physical aspect (and I don't just mean sex) of the relationship.

I think flutelady gave good advice as well, set a date and look forward to it!

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It's a BOY!!

BigBear is right. My last relationship was LDR, and the entire reason it didn't work was because we weren't communicating enough (and I ashamed to say most of it was my fault). Talk a lot, and be honest, even if it's sometimes painful. If you don't talk about how you're feeling, it's just going to build up till it blows up.

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“Sometimes I think we're alone. Sometimes I think we're not. In either case, the thought is staggering.” - Buckminster Fuller

"A man talking sense to himself is no madder than a man talking nonsense not to himself." - Guildenstern, “Rosencrantz and Guildenstern are Dead”

I think that's it. You have to be honest with each other.....it's impossible to sort out truth from fiction over the phone. If you doubt her, ask. Don't let it build up.

The other thing is expressing feelings of love and affection...wanting to snuggle....wanting to have sex. Makes you feel closer.

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Life is too short not to love and be loved....preferably multiple times in one night.

I think men talk to women so they can sleep with them and women sleep with men so they can talk to them. ~ Jay McInerney