I tended bar in which we had dancers (exotic...strippers...whatever you want to call em....lol!) and my S/O would come in after his day and sit and talk with the boyfriend of one of the owners. They knew each other because my S/O owned a diesal mechanic shop that serviced the fleet of trucks this other guy drove for.

Anyway.....we talked and flirted and bantered for about a year, as friends. He was interested in another girl and I was trying to help him get up the nerve to just ask her out....as she wasn't really interested in him. One day it occured to me....Wait a minute....this is a great guy and if she isn't interested...why should I push him towards her? So, I turned up the flirting and started asking him for drinks after our bar closed.

All the dancers egged me on and finally we went on our first real date. He took me to a beautiful restaraunt.....and I couldn't eat anything but a shrimp cocktail....because suddenly I was very nervous around him. That was almost 17 years ago....and although we only just married in 2000....we've been together since my "awakening"!

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