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I agree with kzykrn
The only reason to be in an LDR is because you feel the relationship is at a point where: A) no matter what are trying to get closer to eachother ASAP and/or B)the current relationship as it is at that time (NOTwhat you think it might become) is worth it to wait that long.
Nothing can substitute for physical affection..I am not talking purely about sex, but more so that hug when you need it, cuddling, or just those moments of physical affection that you can't entirely articulate.
What especially makes it hard is if one or the other, or both, have a lot of time on their hands. I have always had a very busy life, so an LDR for me isn't something as hard because I don't have a lot of time to think about what that other person is doing, paranoid thoughts of what they might be doing, or missing them too much to make it.
However, for me, if there isn't some sort of deadline and it feels like it will go on forever....a phone/internet relationship isn't a relationship, that is just limbo. We have LDR's as an interum to the full, healthy relationship, and it shouldn't be the entirety of the relationship itself.
In my experience in my life and those of my friends, LDRs rarely work unless you get to see eachother a decent amount, keep up constant communication, AND disclose everything about eachothers live. Remember, in an LDR, all you have to go by is the spoken word, which makes everything said or NOT said that much more valuable. Of course this should be in addition to constantly trying to find ways to be closer to eachother in distance.
If those conditions are not there (which often they are not because its too hard to keep up for too long and/or move), it seems to me that usually the LDR ends with one or the other cheating, passion dwindling, and/or lack of trust issues which makes you guys fight all the time and end up stopping because of the mutual resentment.
However, I do hope that yours works out. :-) Hope that helps.
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