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As a very petite woman residing in the deep South (in the USA) I am used to some condescension. But it still surprises me when it happens in Pixie's.
Leigh calls these "drive by condesensions"- off hand comments that mean a lot when you look deep--

"My understanding of the difference between repression and oppression is that the former tries to stop something happening through the pressure of morality and the latter through a legal structure" -Vigil

Webster:
"Repression": (you have to go to the root, "Repress" for this one )1 a : to check by or as if by pressure : CURB b : to put down by force

"Oppression" Function:noun
1 a : unjust or cruel exercise of authority or power b : something that oppresses especially in being an unjust or excessive exercise of power

"then I totally respect a decision that you can begin to put yourself first again. What I don't like is people (men and women) who put themselves first before they have fulfilled the obligations that they made when committing to a marriage, unless of course both parties went into the committment with the shared objective of having an open relationship."-Vigil

"so personnally (sic) I have no idea what I committed to."- Vigil

"I see sex as a symbolic statement within a partnership. It goes beyond physical grunting."...."This is why I don't run around casually spreading my legs."--sweetlady

"Well...isn't it interesting how almost all discussions here evolve into history lessons lately... "-scotzoidman
(love, history is how we got here, and probably where we are going)

"I am no more going to go on a guilt trip about historical oppression and repression of women than I am for the slave trade. I learn about these things in History with a view to their hopefully never happening again and certainly not with my support." --Vigil

This "History" is happening around you RIGHT NOW my sweets, and you really need to look around more. The West IGNORED the Taliban until they attacked us. The horrible lives of Afghani women wasn't in the USA's "best interest" to do anything about.
Slavery is alive and well in the Middle East, especially the Sudan.
Try reading up on Indian "dowry murders" and other kinds of "honor killings" I understand this is becoming a problem in the UK too.
Look up what happened here in the USA to Teena Brandon, a lesbian who posed as a man. When her male "friends" found out, they raped and murdered her.

From the web site "infoforhealth.org"
"Around the world at least one woman in every three has been beaten, coerced into sex, or otherwise abused in her lifetime. Most often the abuser is a member of her own family. Increasingly, gender-based violence is recognized as a major public health concern and a violation of human rights."

Yeah, right, it's history.
Ok, you won't support it, but will you fight it?
I do EVERY DAMN DAY!!!!!!!!!!!

"I think that sex is implicitly important to a marriage and each couple needs to ensure that their needs and desires are met in a permissive and encouraging manner.....if this means going outside of the marriage with the other's full consent and approval then so be it....if not, then fine, no one's suggesting that it becomes compulsory" Loulabelle (((**HUGS**))) thank you hon!!!!
And of course Lil, and CowGirlTease, Vullkan, (why should the majority define marriage? but I ALMOST agree with you) Cassi, who found her own scholarship to add, as did Sharni, and Irish... who can disagree with me without insulting me. (If I ever come see you I am going to kiss you no matter what your wonderful wife says, so there!!!!)

BUT!! right now I am angry beyond anymore words!
It seems to say here that I am a selfish, immature slut, putting my own lusts and desires ahead of all else... a girl who married too early, and that is why I am so whatever you think I am!!!
At least that is what some people are suggesting.

'Bye for a while, at least, maybe, I don't know.

W