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Originally posted by Fallen_Angel
...I was just a little apalled today when a guy told me to take down my pics on my profile, as I was "offending" the public. I was in shock when he said that. He then procceded to tell me how bigger women suck in bed, and that we shouldn't be walking around in public. I don't consider myself overweight. True I may have an extra few pounds, (5'5" and 170lbs) but I know I'm not obese. He gave a lot of other rude remarks too, so that just set me off today. The nerve of some people!...
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Fallen_Angel ---
I'm more than just "a little appalled," I'm downright pissed off! I can't believe that anyone would have the nerve, the heartlessness, or the sheer stupidity to say something like that! Sometimes what Sartre said is true: "Hell is other people." (Yikes, that's probably the most negative thought I've had in aeons --- shows you how ticked off I am!)
I have to say, I am not that different from you in height or weight (5'6" and 160#, if that matters to anyone) and I cannot imagine anyone being so ignorant as to say something like that to me. True, if I go out with a group of friends I'm not usually the first one to get hit on, but all you have to do is look at my thread of pics here and you'll see that there are plenty of guys who do find this body attractive. (Unless they're all delusional? or lying? which I doubt...
) I'm far from skinny but I don't particularly consider myself a BBW either --- I'm just me, and I'm the size I am, and that's fine by me. I think it was Robert Munsch (the children's author) who wrote: "I like my skin / It's the house I am living in / It's not like you but that's OK too."
Anyhow...
I don't have much to offer you in the way of smart retorts, but I can tell you one thing that has buoyed my self-image in days gone by (before I started posting pics here and had all the compliments to boost me instead
) --- the shape of my body was considered a healthy ideal for millennia before the modern marketing agencies came along and decided to reinvent womanhood. In some 'traditional' cultures today fat is still highly valued because it is a sign of health and wealth; only in our culture of excess and wastage do we find that perfectly normal women like ourselves are made to feel bad for our size.
I'll step off the feminist soapbox now... Wouldn't want it to break under my enormous weight, after all!
--- sweetstuff