I just realized I didn't answer my own question...

By the way, thanks to all who answered even tho they've been here before.....

I like my men neatly trimmed, like a person above said, with a beard trimmer...I can't take more than 3/4 of an inch because I can't stand the hair tickling my nose and it also makes it easier to clean up after a particularly messy session. But shaved bald doesn't look natural to me and too much hair looks TOO natural.

As far as my women and myself, I like the lips shaved and a little puff or landing strip on the mound. For the reasons the above man said, it's just more handy when eating and it also keeps things from getting too messy...plush I love the feel of the short hair on a man scratching at my sensitive lips.

And thats my 2 pennies